Tell someone who cares.

I'm known from time to time to have a little public moan. Not just randomly in the middle of the street or while I'm shopping for bread at Sainsbury's, but on one of the many social media sites that are taking over everyone's life. "Work was sooooo long today". "Pedestrians in London are sooooo annoying". "I can't stand all this rain". And numerous other random and quite frankly a bit boring tweets and Facebook statuses. Generally I'll (attempt to) add some kind of humorous spin on them because I'm cool or something, but however much you tart it up it's still moaning all the same. This moaning is not the problem, but when it gets a bit more personal, I start to have issues.

Basically some people seem to have misunderstood the boundaries of sharing. It's almost like that moment when someone oversteps that personal space line, it's awkward, uncomfortable, and just not needed. "Who does he think he is? Well he's nothing, and I'm so much happier without him". Not an exact quote, but an example of some of the drivel you find on Facebook. Usually the 'him' will be a friend on Facebook and so able to read it, but this is intentional so that the author of the statement can have a good old bitch about the person knowing they can see, knowing that they are having some sort of point made towards them. It's ever so subtle and smooth. Ha. And for the rest of us looking in? Well no one really cares do they? No one wants other people's personal problems shoved in their face, especially when the majority of people on social media sites are simply acquaintances from decades ago, or some random types you met once whilst severely intoxicated in a bar somewhere.

It gets worse however. Petty arguments and relationship quarrels aside, I once had a joyous Facebook status pop up that simply read "Labour is going well, currently 6cm dilated!". I kid you not. I guess the only saving grace is that it wasn't accompanied by an instagram photo of the subject. Where does it go from here? Detailed descriptions of their latest bowel movements? Yum.

Come on people, yeah it's good to share, it's fun to read some of the hilarious things people do, the random nonsense that's in some people's heads, the online equivalent of small talk. But don't go sharing your insignificant personal crap, because no one really cares.

That is all.

Friends. Family. Strangers.

How many people do you still know from your school days? Those very first friends you made back when you were just a tiny person. And even those friends you made along the journey of growing into a teenager, into a college/uni student, and then into adulthood. How many lovers, partners, or old work colleagues are you still in touch with? Hell, even family members, especially those more distant ones that you only ever see at weddings or funerals.

People are constantly entering and exiting your life. Now I've got a handful of people that I feel will remain in my life forever. My best friend from college. My best friend from uni. My best friends from Topshop. My best friend in London. Aside from those few people everyone else will come and go. Some silently, due to a job change, a relocation, a simple drifting apart. Some with a bang after something (usually overly) dramatic. In the next 5 years I may no longer know a lot of the people in my life. In 10 years even more so. And in 40 years? Who knows.

We are changing all the time, evolving, learning more about ourselves, picking up new traits and hobbies, getting rid of others. We lose connections with people, and while getting to know someone more and more can lead to getting closer with that person, sometimes knowing a person even better only makes you realise you have very little in common at all. And although every person that comes into your life makes some sort of impact on you, however strong, it is only those really important people that really leave a mark. It's those who you have to hang on to.

I'm not really sure what the overall moral of this was. I guess I'm saying that people come, people go, but what's important is that you enjoy your time with whoever is in your life right now, because tomorrow they just might not be there.

That it all.